But this is a tricky topic! There's no right or wrong answer to your question. Of course, we shouldn't judge each other based on appearance or self-expression, but it’s an illusion to think the way we act now will ever change that much. The outside is the first (and sometimes the only) thing we see of another person. So, appearance automatically becomes a kind of billboard.
I think what goes wrong isn't so much the impression we leave, but what the person does with it afterward. A very open-minded person won't judge anyone, but most people compare themselves to others. Accepting someone else for who they are is difficult for many because they see themselves as the standard.
But again, yes you are right, it would help a lot if we women didn't put each other down, but complimented each other instead of commenting.
Second - but now I'm taking it a step further - we will always remain physically weaker than men. That's just how it is, biologically speaking. And the reason I say this is purely protective. I live in a country where, unfortunately, femicide is commonplace. Relatively speaking, far more women are killed, raped, or assaulted here than in other European countries. As a woman, you start to look at yourself differently because you don't want it to happen to you. And because of that, self-expression and embracing yourself as a woman becomes less natural.
You make excellent points, Dani! I LOVE this! You’re right. People are too competitive with one another. Constant comparing and criticizing. Not giving each other a chance to even get to know one another.
I am stating that we as women are not complimenting or uplifting one another enough; however, what happened to Miss Mexico, Fátima Bosch, was proof that women can absolutely unite and stand up for one another. We’re already harshly criticized and demeaned by some men, but that doesn’t give women permission to join in and attack each other. Some even go as far as defending these insolent men, even when those men are clearly in the wrong.
Regarding your second comment, my comments about how miserable the world can be come from that pressure. Society constantly scrutinizes how we dress, how we carry ourselves, and how we communicate. If a woman shows what others deem as “too much,” she’s suddenly at risk, whether that means assault, some other form of violence, or straight judgement. That’s unacceptable. No woman should be forced to cover up head to toe just to avoid being harassed or shamed by society.
To me, it is merely an excuse to keep a woman in a controlled state. I’m not excusing hyper-revealing outfits like flossed shorts or wearing underwear in public; although, that still doesn’t give any man the right to say a woman’s outfit or behavior prevented him from controlling himself.
What I’m focusing on is a woman’s right to embrace and showcase her beauty, whether she’s in an elegant ball gown, a mini-skirt, denim shorts, thigh-high boots, or a fitted bodysuit. We should be able to celebrate our feminine gifts and fashionably express ourselves without being judged, reduced to stereotypes, or have a target on our backs for any type of assault.
Yes sister! You are so right!
But this is a tricky topic! There's no right or wrong answer to your question. Of course, we shouldn't judge each other based on appearance or self-expression, but it’s an illusion to think the way we act now will ever change that much. The outside is the first (and sometimes the only) thing we see of another person. So, appearance automatically becomes a kind of billboard.
I think what goes wrong isn't so much the impression we leave, but what the person does with it afterward. A very open-minded person won't judge anyone, but most people compare themselves to others. Accepting someone else for who they are is difficult for many because they see themselves as the standard.
But again, yes you are right, it would help a lot if we women didn't put each other down, but complimented each other instead of commenting.
Second - but now I'm taking it a step further - we will always remain physically weaker than men. That's just how it is, biologically speaking. And the reason I say this is purely protective. I live in a country where, unfortunately, femicide is commonplace. Relatively speaking, far more women are killed, raped, or assaulted here than in other European countries. As a woman, you start to look at yourself differently because you don't want it to happen to you. And because of that, self-expression and embracing yourself as a woman becomes less natural.
You make excellent points, Dani! I LOVE this! You’re right. People are too competitive with one another. Constant comparing and criticizing. Not giving each other a chance to even get to know one another.
I am stating that we as women are not complimenting or uplifting one another enough; however, what happened to Miss Mexico, Fátima Bosch, was proof that women can absolutely unite and stand up for one another. We’re already harshly criticized and demeaned by some men, but that doesn’t give women permission to join in and attack each other. Some even go as far as defending these insolent men, even when those men are clearly in the wrong.
Regarding your second comment, my comments about how miserable the world can be come from that pressure. Society constantly scrutinizes how we dress, how we carry ourselves, and how we communicate. If a woman shows what others deem as “too much,” she’s suddenly at risk, whether that means assault, some other form of violence, or straight judgement. That’s unacceptable. No woman should be forced to cover up head to toe just to avoid being harassed or shamed by society.
To me, it is merely an excuse to keep a woman in a controlled state. I’m not excusing hyper-revealing outfits like flossed shorts or wearing underwear in public; although, that still doesn’t give any man the right to say a woman’s outfit or behavior prevented him from controlling himself.
What I’m focusing on is a woman’s right to embrace and showcase her beauty, whether she’s in an elegant ball gown, a mini-skirt, denim shorts, thigh-high boots, or a fitted bodysuit. We should be able to celebrate our feminine gifts and fashionably express ourselves without being judged, reduced to stereotypes, or have a target on our backs for any type of assault.
Am I making sense, friend?